Awe...... day two of summer vacation has ended with both children alive and sound asleep.
SUCCESS!!!
However, it wasn't all smooth sailing this evening, as it's not much of the time.
You see, God has blessed me with a VERY, more than you could ever imagine unless you have one yourself, stong-willed child.
On Monday, yesterday, my daughter was formally diagnosed with AD/HD with an extreme emphasis on the hyperactive impulsive side, border line ODD (oppositional defiance disorder) and we were told that she has basically all of the precursors for developing some form of a mood disorder as she gets older.
I'm honestly not sure what all of this means at this point, other than there is a lot of things that needs to be read by both myself and my wonderful husband. And that our lives are going to change, must change, in order to help our gift, our daughter, the daughter God blessed us and entrusted us with.
I'm so not ready for this.
Doesn't God see that during every shake in my hand when I'm using all of the energy I have to not punch a hole in the wall, or worse, HIS daughter?
Of all the tears I've shed in my life, the ones I shed now are the most warranted.
Just like Jesus wept for us, I weep for my children while I pray for guidance, endurance, mental and physical strength, and a listening heart for both my children and my husband and me.
I also thank God for blessing me with a new day, sometimes a new minute. I thank Him for the fresh air and the frogs that sing me to sleep and remind me that I am not alone.
I thank Him for giving us Christian and his gentle lion's heart.
And I thank him for Alyssa, my cloudy sunset, as sunsets may be beautiful without the clouds, but they are magical and full of color with them. Clouds make everything so much more interesting, and as I am often reminding myself of, God does not promise us a life of ease, but He does promise that He will never leave us alone.
And that is the only way I am able to get through some moments to see the next ones.
God designed your beautiful daughter just as she was ment to be. And he gave her to you and equipped you with everything you need...your strong will and big heart. I love you guys so much and I feel so blessed to have you in my life. I will be praying for you.. for patience, knowledge and guidance.
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Mary, I have a 12 year old daughter that is also ODD. Just a few tips I have picked up over the years that may help you. First remember to take a deep breath and stay calm, second remember when dealing with her that she has no control of who she is and how she may behave at times and its all byond her grasps and she is just a bottle of emotions and is confused and doesnt know how to express her self which leads to the next thing on my list get her a journal if she hasnt already got one it will help her deal with her emotions and give her something to channel all of her anger and frustrations in to. Also to help keeps things moving smoothly and keep the battles down some deal with the bigger issues and just let the small stuff go, like they say no use crying over spilt milk.Another thing that helps is to just set some time for just her for example today my mom took the boys so i took Nikki to the mall and out to dinner.It wasn't nothing much but it made her feel good and special.Oh also after you sit down and talk to her about her ODD she may try to use it as an excusse for everything she does and every bad decision she makes I know my daughter did and it took me a little while to catch on to what she was doing so beware and keep an eye out for it.If you need someone to talk to about this or would like more tips and information you can find me on facebook or you can get my number from Jamie or Joyce or even send me a message asking me for it.
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